Love = Friendship or Sex?

"Love is just friendship on fire"

OR

"How can old people get remarried if they can't have sex anymore?"

Two quotes from two very different friends of mine...and food for thought. Take the first one which seems to be a sensible stance on love that persists in the early years of a relationship as well as in the latter years. The second one, however, I can't seem to grasp. I mean, to believe the second line of thought is to say that one cannot have a relationship without sex, which I know to be untrue. Think of those beginning months of a relationship or those people (as rare as they are these days) that save that special intimacy for marriage. Surely they have a meaningful closeness, companionship, and chemistry that is exclusive of sex...at least initially. It also implies that once a couple is no longer able to have sex (assuming they live that long) that their relationship ceases, which would just be downright sad. There has to be a sense of companionship in a relationship for it to really work, doesn't there? And certainly don't get me wrong, I'm not by any means saying that sex is not important in a serious relationship, that would be ignorant, I'm just saying that a lasting relationship should be much more than that if it is expected to work.

Anyway, my two cents on the topic. Leave of comment with thoughts!

You'll never know

This is a poem I wrote after watching the Spike Lee movie "Bamboozled". You should see it...its an excellent commentary on black people in TV. Note the correlation between the Mantan show and the Dave Chappelle show, then check out chappelletheory.com There is an amazing correlation, although the two were produced years apart. Anyway, enough babbling...read on.

YOU'LL NEVER KNOW

Don't tell me you understand what it's like to be a black person
Or that you know black people better than me
Just because YOU think wearing oversize or hoochie mama clothes and using incorrect grammar makes you "BLACK".
I don't want to hear it.
You'll never understand what its like to walk down the street and hear someone call you nigger from a pickup truck sporting confederate flags.
You'll never understand why YOU got called to the office in sixth grade when someone called YOU a nigger. Hell, I still don't understand it myself.
You'll never feel what its like to watch the nightly news and night after night only see reports of crimes committed by black people.
Surely there are other people committing crimes in this city or at least other stories worthy of reporting on.
I mean, I sit there hoping that when they are describing a murder or child abuse or robbery that the sketch they show is not that same man with wide nose, full lips, and dark skin, that once, just ONCE a white person would be reported doing a crime in this city.
You'll never understand how my heart aches every time I watch a movie or see a show or even learn about slavery because my heart, my blood belongs to those slaves. That was my grandfather, his parents, and their parents. It's hard to think about without tears welling up in my eyes as my heart breaks for my people.
You'll never know what its like to go to one of the most prestigious schools in the world and look around the classroom day after day, year after year and only see two or three other black faces looking back.
You'll never know.
You'll never understand.
So STOP telling me you're blacker than I am because you think you know about my people or can speak some disjointed slang the ignorant refer to as ebonics!
You don't understand me, you don't understand my people.
So stop playin' yourself and the black race and learn our history...
then maybe you'll "know" a little more.