A Letter...

Dear _____,

I miss you. I haven't heard from you in a while and I just wanted to let you know that.

What I really wanted to tell you is that I wish we could still get to know each other better. The time we spent together was fun and thoughtful and engaging. I didn't think it was possible to miss someone so much only having known them for such a short time. I felt like we connected on a very real level and both could have learned something from getting to know one another better. I still believe that.

You're probably asking yourself why I'm writing this? Well, to be honest, I saw a movie this weekend that for numerous reasons struck me and made me think of you in earnest. Have you ever seen Prime? Well, you should and you'll understand this better. Age matters, but in the end its just a number...its about life stage. But I don't want to preach, I said we should still be friends and I'm trying to live up to that, but my heart is betraying my word. Part of me wishes that you would just give it/us a chance...at least to spend a little more time together. Then the other part of me thinks about the movie and thinks, maybe it just could never work. Perhaps its my naivete that keeps the hope alive.

In any case, I still hope to hear from you soon, and perhaps when I go rock climbing I'll give you a call. I hope all is well with you.

Best,
Me

Closeness and Second Dates

Two things...

1) There are totally some guys out there that have something about them that makes you want to be close to them. I was hanging out with a couple guy friends of mine tonight, and there is one (who is also my dancing buddy) that makes me want to be close to him...to stand close, dance close, place a hand on him, whatever. It's weird but there are other guys who have the same effect on me...I wonder if it's pheromones...?

2) I think I discovered what my problem is...I'm pretty good at first dates when I have them, but I must be terrible at second dates. I go on lots of first and second dates, but never third dates. Is there something I should know about the second date?? Was I absent the day some crucial rule was taught about second dates?? I mean, we always chit chat it up nicey nicey style, but am I supposed to openly talk about where we go from here? Am I supposed to kiss him? Are we supposed to do something adventurous? Am I supposed to let him teach me something? I have no idea what is going wrong here! As always, if any of you have any tips, please let me know...I'm interested.

Oh, and Happy Labor Day!

To Pursue or Not To Pursue

Hello my beautiful people. I know it has been a long time since I've written (over a month), but I have been incredibly crazed with work. When I was hanging out with a friend a couple weeks ago our conversation made me realize how dull and uneventful my life has gotten :( I have spend soo much time working that I didn't learn to surf like I promised myself I would this year (although there is still time), I haven't been running or hiking or on any exciting adventures.

Anyway, I thought I'd catch you all up to date. I have spent some time with my adorable yet older friend and confirmed that we are...yes...just friends. It still makes me sad, but like I said before making new friends is always good. And that just means there is someone out there more right for me. But the whole situation has made me think...

Is it wrong for a woman to want to be pursued? I didn't call a guy I went on a date with a while back for about two weeks because I wanted to see if he would call. He didn't. Does that mean he's not interested or was he doing the same thing? I don't always want to be the one always pursuing, there's got to be a little back and forth, doesn't there? Someone help me out here, I'd love to get your thoughts.

Ah well, that's New York I suppose. It's so difficult to meet good guys here. ;-/